December 21, 2013

Aging Gracefully... most of the time

This past October–drum role please–I turned 48.  I still can't really put my head around that number.  I still remember when I was in my 20's, and my girlfriends would always joke, "Your'e pushing 30!"  Then eventually it was, "Your'e pushing 40!" Now? where are they now?   The silence is thick with fear.   But a few of my friends have surpassed me and reached the next glorious double didgit of 50.  And you know what?  It's really not so bad.  Sure, when your 45, and under, you cringe when you think of turning 50. But as the years go by, and you see little changes, but nothing too dramatic, and you still feel fabulous, sexy and alive, 50 just seems like another number.  One to just go, "oh boo. You don't scare me!"   50 is actually kind of sexy now.  Because it's broken the stereo type.  And people who are still stuck in the middle ages who refer to "middle age" as 40, have another thing coming.  Well maybe if they are sitting around eating donuts, doritos, lot's of fried fats, don't excersice or socialize. Then, yes they will look like the old fashioned 50.  But these days, it doesn't take much to keep your youth. The very most important ingredient to staying young looking (IMHO), is to be young thinking. Open minded.  Open to all.  To love fully, and to give fully.  To embrace life.  To forgive, and to let go.  To just be yourself.  Don't get stuck.  Find your way out of those sticky places with the right, positive attitude.  Hey, it's not easy. And not every day is easy. But more times than naught, it is.  Just some gentle reminders needed.  Good friends, and people around you that you love and love you.
I have the best group of friends EVER.  They are near, and they are far. But only far geographically. They sit so close to my heart, sometimes it hurts when I miss them. But I know something for sure now–and this is a benefit of age–the friends you have now, will be with you forever.  We're in that unconditional love phase of our lives. And it's glorious!

 So here are some photos from this year, of me. I'm proud of me. Proud of my body– with stretch marks, a few sags, cellulite and fat. (Yes, we all have to have fat!)   I'm in love with my family, friends, and my life.   I'm very, very lucky. Even with a few wrinkles to go with the smile.

July, Amagansett

If i stand just so...

With fellow sex pot mommy, Hannah.  Yeah, but she's still in her 30's or something

My Birthday Weekend: London (zoom in for crinkles

With the Family on our German Thanksgiving

With the man in my life.  But I have to admit, I think he softened the lens on this.

Celebrating Christmas with Wanda (my mom, who just turne 78!)

I love you mom. Your an inspiration!

December 20, 2013

Sewing Precious Pants

These are the silk pants I made last spring. I'm pretty sure I posted this photo of me modeling them, but not sure if I posted the few photos I took while constructing them.  What I usually do, is take a pattern, and then customize it.   A lot of the instructions on these patterns aren't very clear, so I improvise anyway.  Recently, I learned how to do a double welted pocket, which I'll show in another post.  But these call for standard side pockets, zipper and my addition, tuxedo stripe.   I have a few problems when I'm sewing.  I don't have a Serger, so my edges are not the prettiest.  That's on my wish list for next year.   And, I don't always choose the most forgiving materials.   For example, these pants would be better if they had just a slight stretch.  But, they still look hot.

After adding the tuxedo strip.

Getting ready to bring the together...

Crappy edges

Getting ready to add zipper

Basted for a change. It really helps keep things in place!

Perfectly alighted zipper. Sucky edges.



waist band being added

December 17, 2013

Coolness is Hynde

I love Chrissie Hynde.  I have to thank my friend Barbara (know as Bambie in HS) for influencing me with all things Pretenders, the Clash, the Jam, and even more pop music as the Go Go's and Duran Duran.  Without her, I might still be rockin' out to Led Zeppelin, Lynyrd Skynyrd and the Doors... Only.   Nothing wrong with those amazing Rock bands, but in 1981, getting something new and fresh was in dire need.  And I absorbed it every note and wale to accompany it.   Even today, I listen to everything.  Everything good.

Anyhow, Hynde is the real thing.  As a young teenager into my 20's, a woman like Chrissie; cool, talented, vocals to kill, was something to look up to.   And I believe she still is.  

December 11, 2013

Always another new language to learn

I was just reading this super funny and talented bloggers post, when I came to this random dialogue she overheard from her kids.  Hysterical.

Meanwhile, I was in my own carpool listening to my kids talk but I have no idea what they are saying. It's all code now.  
A: Kat is so off the hizzy. Right? 
E: For shiz. When she dissed me at lunch, totes rachet! 
A: I'm sticking with my mains. Plus she never got back on PetShop. 
E: Uh! R-Bomb. 
A: I sold my Rainbows but now the school is mad about my flex. 
E: Derp.

Not the kids in the dialogue above, but my favorite little PS261 girls. 
They are all grown up now (this picture is from 2011).

For source: http://www.thedevilstrifecta.com

October 19, 2013

Little Warriors and Princesses

Photos from yesteryear. 
Literally last years photos taken on Thanksgiving while we visited friends at the Manor.  I'll always cherish these times we've spent there with our friends.  It's peaceful and calm.  And just gorgeous.

July 22, 2013

Surfer Girl: your never to old to learn

from my instagram: Caution: beginners only. All experienced surfers will fall asleep waiting.

For the past 18 years, I've been watching my love, Mark, surf.  I've always been content to be the Betty on the beach.   I like watching.  It's soothing, and looks much less dangerous!   Yes the truth is, I'm a chicken. I used to be fearless as a kid growing up in Southern California. I let the waves toss me about with no problem.   But after I had kids, I started to play life more cautiously and careful.

Well no more.  Something has happened to me recently and it's made me realize that I'm just sitting around waiting for shit to happen.  And when you do that, and your not steering, shit happens, but not necessarily the kind you want.   So, taking the steer by the horn, the horse by the reigns, the sea with the board....   I'm giving it a try. Trying to overcome my fears.   I'm starting small.  So don't get any ideas that I'll be hitting the big waves.  In fact, I have yet stand up!   I've only been out one day.  Several times, but just one day. Practicing paddling, sitting up and fear of shark bites.  

I'm also exercising, because it takes a lot of arm and thigh muscle.   I've been watching some fun video tutorials as well.  

I can't wait to get out again, after my bruised ribs get less hurty.   It's totally invigorating dude!

May 29, 2013

A Trip to Amsterdam to see Girls Against Boys

Girls against Boys.

May 3rd  I jumped on a train to Amsterdam to see my friend play with his band.  I couldn't get anyone else to go with me, so I just went for it.  It turned out to be the best thing I could have done.  It was so nice to be on my own wandering the streets of Amsterdam.  Checking out shops, people watching and enjoying the atmosphere.  Later that evening I hooked up with my friend Eli and grabbed something to eat before the show. 

The show was fantastic. I think so many bands mature in a way that makes them more interesting to see than when they are just young men.  Although I have to admit, I never saw them play when they first set of in the late 80's. But I wasn't disappointed.  

It was an amazing night.   From there we hit a club where our friend was Djaying, "ThugFu**er".  It was almost as if I stepped into another world.  One a mother of two doesn't get to join too often.

March 28, 2013

Inspiring Ladies: Linda Rodin

I suppose any girl has some amazing woman  they look to for inspiration.  When your a child it's probably the teenager that babysits you, or the older sister of your friend.  Then when your a teenager it's the girls in their early 20's. And so it goes.  What you look for, depends on who you are.   Strong minded women. Glamours and Chic.  Independent and wordily.  And then, now, for me.. the aging gracefully, comfortable who she is, yet still glamours and chic.  

I seem to be looking at women who are my age or older (just like the pattern), who have their own unique style, and have only done minimal maintenance to keep their youth.  I'm all about dying your hair, some make-up and a little botox to keep myself from looking mad, or sad. But too much and you look more your age than without.  It's true. The more you see a woman with her face pulled tight, you can see that she's covering something.   It just becomes a mask.   

We shouldn't be looking back--- using younger women as influences. They are for their younger peers to be on a pedestal.  And older woman should look to her peers and elders for inspiration.

Never go back... only forward.

Today's Inspiration:  Linda Rodin

Linda Rodin, (60 something) is a model of elegance!  She started modeling when she moved to Italy to study at the age of eighteen.  Returning to New York in the Seventies, she ran a successful, SoHo boutique, had stints as a stylist at chic stores like Henri Bendel, and then as a fashion editor at Harper’s Bazaar. Eventually, she became a freelance stylist—acknowledged as one of the best in the business.

In 2007 she created her own skincare line: RODIN. Creating something that she was unable to find for a woman of her age.  Something that would "caress the skin noticeably and without any delay."   RODIN Olio lusso—and lipstick—are the only products Rodin uses on her skin and hair.  

RODIN Olio lusso is made from a blend of 11 essential oils derived from flowers and botanicals. Applied morning and night, olio lusso is perfect for anyone seeking hydrated skin, and a luminous complexion. Apply a few drops of RODIN olio lusso on a clean, moist face morning and night.

I haven’t worn makeup since I turned 30, except for lipstick which I never leave the house without. It always brightens your face. I hate glossy lips and only wear matte colors like Guerlain’s Rouge 129. My favorite pencil is Shu Uemura’s 365 lip liner, which was discontinued. Now I use a bright pink one from Makeup For Ever called Aqua Lip 16C. 
For my daily regime, I wet my face with warm water in the morning, pat it dry and put my oil on while the skin is still damp. At night, I wash my face with a cleanser like Cetaphil and repeat. I don’t re-cleanse after sleeping. 
Each of the ingredients in my face oil has a certain property. Rose hip seed treats sunspots, primrose treats rashes and calendula oil from the marigold flower is good for healing inflammation and irritation. 
The most overrated thing is expensive towels for drying your face. Thick towels are too heavy and leave your skin bone dry. A moist face absorbs product better. I buy cheap Indian cotton towels from Dress Shoppe on Second Avenue. They’re 10 bucks and never get fluffy, but they’re good because they’re not absorbent 
In the summer I use any sunblock over 20 SPF from Dermalogica. I used to be a Bain de Soleil girl way back, but I ruined my skin. Now I’m neurotic in the hot sun. I cover up in a burqa. 
My new healthy habit is drinking green juice made with kale, spinach, ginger, lemon and celery. It’s like having a salad. All the models drink it, which makes their breath stink, but it’s delicious. 
I prefer dark nails like Chanel Vamp and Essie Wicked or nothing at all. Jacqueline Padilha is a genius Brazilian manicurist who comes to my house.
My secret weapon is Fran Wilson’s Moodmatcher lipstick. I’ve been using it since I was 16. It’s green and you can put it under everything. It keeps your lips colored even after sleeping. 
A common myth is that oil makes your hair greasy. Bob Recine, who created our formula has a motto: just a teeny drop every morning. It has juniper and rosemary and smells divine. 
I’ve always maintained a thin figure. I don’t drink water except at night. My liquid is a cappuccino every morning and two glasses of wine at night. (I can totally relate to this) 
To relax, I see David McCabe, a private massage therapist. He’s fantastic. You feel like you’re back in the womb. 
My biggest beauty indulgence is a monthly Triad Medical facial from Dr. Colbert. It’s so luxurious but it only takes 20 minutes. First they clean your skin with a little suction that I call a mini vacuum cleaner, then they do a treatment that feels like your skin is getting popped and they finish with a minor peel. You walk out literally looking 10 years younger. 
I’ve never colored my hair. I’ve been using Clairol Shimmer Highlights shampoo for blondes and white hair for years. I see Leonard Golino for a blowout every week. (she makes me want to go natural... but I'll wait till I'm 55) 
The secret to aging gracefully is maintenance. Botox is fine in moderation, but the more you do the older you look. You can’t chase youth. You’ll just look old with a facelift. (didn't I just say this! LOL. Words of Wisdom)

—Excerpts from an interview by Nicole Berrie, Wall Street Journal (http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970204555904577167123704941372.html)

March 21, 2013

Waiting for Spring...

Hamming it up in my DarylK Spring 2012 Dress

I can't tell you how much I'm looking forward to spring this year.   It's been a long long winter, and I'm really missing the sunshine, and along with it, light breezy dressing.  Last summer I purchased this great dress from Daryl K.   I wore it a few times at the end of the season, but just knew it would still look fabulous this spring.   Let's hope I still fit into it after all the pommes and wurst I've been eating to chase away these chilly days.

and last summer when I first tried it on in Daryl's studio.


In collaboration with artist Spencer Sweeney, this abstract printed silk JumpDress is a cross between a dress and a jumpsuit.  It looks like a dress but feels like a jumpsuit.  It is a subtly asymmetrical shape that has a step-in opening creating a pant leg; it then wraps around the body to close with a zipper in the front.  It is comfortable, functional, simultaneously elegant and simple.