Oh hell no! She didn't just say that did she? Damn straight she did! It takes years and years of earned hard patches and victories before some of us can dig deep enough to correct old patterns and set ourselves free of our maddening mind. Well at least get to a point to quiet it a bit.
Everyday there is a lesson to be learned, and life brings it to us just when we need it the most! Today's lesson came to me right on time!
Observe the way you are attached to your views and opinions.
"When you become involved in an argument or conflict, watch how defensive you become, and feel the force of your own aggression as you attack another person's position.
Feel the mental-emotional energy behind your need to be right and make the other person wrong, then let go of the force inside you that is fighting for power." ~Eckhart Tolle
Why do we get so caught up in the drama? Why do we feed off of it. Why do we need to have the last word? Why must we need to prove our point? To feel justified? All these things are a mystery to me, as to why we need to do this. But the first step in changing, is recognizing when you're doing it. It's when the big "I" (the one connected) see's the little "i" (the one who needs - the ego) spinning out of control, or trying to be in control, that you know you're are present. And being present with yourself is the first step to calming those needs.
As someone very close to me always says, "It's an inside job".