January 2, 2016

Setting Healthy Limits

Having and setting healthy limits is vital to our growth, building our self-esteem, dealing with feelings, and learning to really love and value ourselves. 

Boundaries are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, and to changing our beliefs about what we deserve. As our thinking about this becomes clearer, so will our boundaries. 

But we will set our limits when we’re ready, and not a moment before. So will others. 

There’s something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because we’re controlling others, but because we’ve changed. 

Today, I will trust that I will learn, grow, and set the limits I need in my life at my own pace. This timing need only be right for me.

~ melody Beetie


serenesharon said...

The more we grow to love and accept ourselves, the easier it is for us to set boundaries. I have read that we will not accept behavior or treatment worse that we will treat our selves... makes me think....

lady warfield said...

Absolutely a good point. I wouldn't want to say women who are abused treat themselves worse. But in a way, their self esteem matches the abuse, which allows them to let someone repeadly abuse them. Until they can believe in themselves, and love themselves free.
Thank you for commenting Sharon😘